A counselling guide by the best PGDM College in Hyderabad
“I became successful due to several reasons. I never gave up and I never let anyone or anything get in my way. I use the power of positive thinking tackle obstacles and challenges so they don’t defeat me.”– Lillian Vernon
Be it in personal life or your work life, the way we handle a particular situation depends completely on our perception of it. Many a times that perception could be correct but sometimes it could be wrong too. For example, we jump to wrong conclusions very fast or we are very harsh with ourselves for no particular reason and so on. This could cause trouble and make us unhappy.
The most agreed upon definition of stress by the PGDM Colleges was developed by Richard S. Lazarus. He said that it happens when someone thinks that the demands on them “exceed the personal and social resources that the individual is able to mobilize.” This stress in turn can cause the person to panic and hence mess up the situation which ideally could have handled in a better way if you just have the positive thinking and right perception towards the situation.
Most situations are not as stressful as it seems which make us stressed and unhappy in the workplace thereby undermining our confidence level. In one of the best PGDM College in Hyderabad, we not only teach management to our students but also a way to think positively.
Step 1. Understanding Thought Awareness
The foremost reason to have negative thinking towards the situation is the fear of future. What if I fail? What if my boss scolds me for making the mistake? And so on. Negative thinking damages your confidence which in turn hampers your work, paralyzes your mental skills and harms your performance.
The process of Thought Awareness is the foremost step towards tackling negative thinking and bringing positivity in your work. It is the process by which you try to gather and observe all your thoughts and become aware of what is going in your mind.
You can do this by maintaining a log of all that stresses you at work. When you do this for a particular duration of time, you will notice patterns and common reasons that stresses you. After this all you need to do is handle those issues on priority and start building a positive life.
Step 2 – Creating Rational Thinking
The next step is to challenge all the negative thoughts you jotted down during Thought Awareness and challenge them one by one. Looking at each and every thought rationally would help you in identifying all the problem areas that if fixed would automatically ease up the situation for you.
It could be anything such as talking to your boss about the late night meetings that hampers your performance the next day or organise your inbox in order to avoid wasting time on redundant mails and so on. The best way to rational thinking is put yourself in the shoe of an adviser and imagine that these troubles are with someone else and you have to give them a rational advice in order to stay positive. Note all your points in front of each negative thought and start applying these advices one by one. You will feel the change yourself.
Step 3 – Positive Thinking Exercises
The ultimate step to positive thinking is the day to day practice of all your rational thoughts you jotted down in front of the negative ones. So all you have to do is to talk to yourself about all the affirmative and rational thoughts you have been writing down. Many a times, we think positively throughout but when the time comes, the panic starts to take hold of us and all the positivity goes out from the backdoor.
In order to avoid this, it is always recommended to give yourself confidence and tell yourself all the rational thoughts. This would help you stay calm in the situation and would also make you a good performer and a better team member.